One precious thing in life that has been brought to my attention over and over in the past couple months is the role of family and friends in my life. In all honesty, family and our closest friends are the ones we look to for advice, encouragement, love and support. They are the ones we cry, laugh, talk, and yell with. (Hopefully more laughing and talking😉) They are the ones we seek understanding and encouragement from when making decisions, going through a tough time, or in our faith.
One important thing to understand, and I have seen both sides, is that they won’t always give what you are looking for in that moment. Reasons could be, they are trying to protect you, think they know best, have lived longer and believe they have more wisdom with age, they love you, they are scared of getting left behind, and many more reasons. Sometimes they will be your biggest cheerleaders and sometimes your biggest critics. How they react is based on their viewpoint and their knowledge of the situation. When the ones we love most are not the most enthusiastic about our choices, it hurts and can be very discouraging.
The decision at this point, do we listen to what they think is best or what God says is right? Do we let the fear of approval take over and give up on something that could change the future before us? Do we let their OPINION define us or refine us? Do we take it as water to our fire or fuel? Are they going to be right or are you?
We need to seek advice and counsel from others that we respect and love, but we also need to be careful to seek advice from those that have success in the area we desire, are farther down the road, and have the fruit on the tree. If we are looking to make a financial decision, wouldn’t you say it makes sense to look to someone that is doing well financially? In our career path, wouldn’t you want to speak to those that are on the path you are interested in and ask questions about the good and bad, and get a few different perspectives on if they are happy with their position in life?
You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. – Jackie Lewis
Isn’t that statement so profound and rings with truth? But yet so many people live life ignorantly, myself included, I was very selfish and lived my day to day life thinking whatever happens, happens. I hope for the best. How crazy is that? I was not living intentionally, wanting to make something of everyday that I am given. As Gods word says in
James 4:14- Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.
Our life is but a breath on this earth and we are here to fulfill a calling, a purpose, a passion that has been ignited, whatever you want to call it. The point is that we can live to be fulfilled and to fulfill or we can quit and live day by day hoping for the best because we fear the approval of fellow people. We were given the need for relationships to survive. Like
plants need water, we need relationships like we need air. So naturally we look to those we love and share our lives with because we want to feel united as one and want to agree in everything we do. But sometimes I feel I look way to much at those that surround me for approval when I need to look UP for the only approval that is needed to do what needs to be done. When those you love encourage and uplift you in anything, praise God. But when they are criticizing and discouraging you, just ask for love and understanding that if that’s where God has called you then you are going to follow and will do it with excellence and then follow with confidence and peace knowing you are in the right place. Strive to LIVE INTENTIONALLY FOR EXCELLENCE every single day. Keep your long term goals and aspirations in sight but never lose sight at the here and now moments that bring those goals and aspirations about, into realities. Never apologize for your calling, just run after it! Will never be regretted!:) that is one thing I can guarantee! The work is hard but the reward is great!
The common man achieves nothing.- Orrin Woodward
Will you decide to be uncommon and chase after something great?
If so, I will see you at the finish line! 🙂